Does It Gotta Be or Not Be? That is the Question...
I keep thinking about the movie "Bridget Jones", where the co-star told her "he liked her just the way she was", but instead of being who she reacted to those words and strive to be someone so she wasn't all to have a man. We tend to forget that things may be the way they are and that sometimes an adjust is necessary, but other times they are not. The challenge I believe comes from understanding not fighting so that all possibilities are open.
This chapter also addressed MISTAKES. We all make them and many times dwell on them way too long. Mistakes like everything else in life are just experiences that e must use to push forward and not stop us from knocking or building walls for progress. Mistakes are just mini lessons in the cycle and we must take each one are an learning experience to be better. I like the paragraph - Mistakes can be like ice. If we resist them, we may keep on slipping into a posture of defeat. If we include mistakes in our definition of performance, we are likely to glide through them and appreciate the beauty of the longer run.
The last point I want to touch on from this chapter is the way things are should allow us to dream and visualize the possibilities that out there. It will allow us to develop who we are and want to be in the universe. It should allow us to open doors with an open heart and mind. The way things are is in itself another avenue to the "Art of Possibility." (no pun intended)
You are right about the finish line - the steps through it are much harder than from the starting line. And our mistakes - they are teachers, aren't they?
ReplyDeleteI'm guessing you resonate nicely with Zander's ideas. I see it in your "About Me" ( I am a change maker & making a difference in education is my life... mother of 2 and living a life of purpose...) - a lovely, strong declaration. Thank you Stacey!
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ReplyDeleteYes Stacey, I agree that we sometimes lower our expectations when we settle for the way things are. I think one of the largest factors for not settling for just anything is the faith and confidence we have in our selves. I think that you find a starting point no matter where you are in the continuum. Even if you are in the middle, you can say this is my starting point. Not accepting the way things are does not happen without careful thought. I think it is important to have a plan to follow that will guide us from expecting things the way they are to creating our own universe of possibilities. Most of the time it is not easy and we may have to endure some storms before we experience the calm sunshine. Remember the things that worth having the most are do not come easy, but they are most rewarding. After the experience of the journey, we reflect and (most of the time) realize that it was not that difficult after all.